Slambooks

I was finishing high school to move to university. These were times when slambooks were a thing. For those of you who do not know what a Slambook is, it used to be these notebooks of sort, with a few questions that allows your friends to write about you and about them with respect to you.  The questions were cheesy and the idea of it all was to have a means to stay in touch or just have some memory of the people close to you. Though in reality the book would get passed around to everybody and usually one would have a generic response for people you barely knew though you were in the same class. So slambooks were like facebook post of yesteryears where one asks you to leave some memory of them in the comments for example.

Now, to give you some context, there was a friend of mine who was friends with  another person, who would bully her. This friend would not stand up for herself but put up with her. I would tolerate this bully in common circle of friends and she was not specifically nice to me but i was non-existant for her. This person decided to give me her slambook  to write in as if it were a peace offering of sorts now that we were leaving school. The slambook had a section what is the one thing that you would want me to change and there, I wrote, you would be a much better person if only you were not a spit fire.. Ain't proud of myself there but it was what it was. 

And I remember her coming upto me and not being happy about that comment. She asked me to change it to  which I said no I would not. But she could fill my slambook with whatever she wanted, which she did not want to do.  

And guess what, I was iced out by my friend and she still wanted to be in good terms with this person. Well, people and their choices. My friend and I, moved to different universities and still went on to have some semblance of a friendship over the years, till it completely fell apart. Looking back, I would probably not write that comment in a slambook (or probably I would still) but other than that I would not change a thing.

Some of the recent incidents brought this incident to my mind.